I Refuse to Keep Funding Family Christmas—I’m Not the Family’s Credit Card
Family holidays often bring unspoken expectations, especially around hosting, money, and emotional labor. When one person consistently pays and plans, resentment can quietly build. Situations like these highlight the importance of boundaries, communication, and fairness during gatherings like Christmas dinner.
Alright, buckle up. This is gonna sound petty, and maybe it is, but I’m honestly still kind of shaking my head over it.
So for the last 7 years, I’ve hosted Christmas dinner for my entire family. Like, the entire family. 12–15 people. I cook everything, clean everything, decorate, and buy drinks and desserts—the whole Hallmark nightmare.
I also pay for all of it. Every year. No one’s ever offered to help financially, and if I ask for help cooking, it’s always “Oh, I’ll just bring rolls” energy.
This year money has been tight, groceries are insane, and I’m just tired. So back in November, I sent a group text asking if everyone could contribute $50 per person to help cover food. That’s it.
My mom literally laughed. Like, actually laughed. And said, “Don’t be selfish; it’s Christmas.” I smiled, changed the subject, and dropped it.
But honestly? That comment stuck with me. Fast-forward to Christmas Day. Everyone shows up at my house, dressed nicely, arms empty as usual.
