I Refused to Go to a Non-Vegan Christmas Party—Now HR Wants a Talk
A workplace, a Christmas party, a “mandatory” team event, and a choice that suddenly turns into a career problem. In a world where companies love to preach inclusion and empathy, this story exposes the gap between glossy values and everyday reality at work.
My boss booked our Christmas party at a steakhouse. I’m vegan. When I asked about vegan options, he glared. “Don’t be so dramatic! Just order a salad!” Their online menu only had meat and dairy meals. I didn’t go.
The next week, I froze when I saw that my performance review had been downgraded with a note from HR: “Failed to attend mandatory team-building event, showing lack of commitment.”
So now I’m stuck wondering how to handle this. Do I confront my boss about the unfair review, or should I talk to HR? Is it worth pushing back, or should I just let it slide and start looking for a new job? What’s the smartest move here?
— Julie
We’re sorry this happened right before Christmas, a time when everyone should be celebrating and feeling a bit more connected and kind. Try not to panic or let the stress take over—instead, take a breath and consider the practical suggestions we’ve lined up for you below.
