My Mom Forgot About Me Until She Needed My Help—I Turned the Tables on Her
Weddings have a way of bringing the worst out in people. Family struggles can come to the surface and relationships could be destroyed. One of our readers reached out to share how her cousin’s wedding not only brought up demons from her past, but also put her in a position she never thought she’d find herself in.
This is Emily’s story.My mom and I have never really had a relationship. She never cared about me, and I couldn’t be bothered with someone like that. But it’s not that I haven’t tried throughout my life. I always invited her to my kids’ birthday parties, she never showed.
I would call her to catch up, and she wouldn’t answer. I’d text to find out how she was doing and was left on “read”. So eventually I just stopped trying. It was clear that she didn’t want to put in the effort, and I didn’t think I should carry all the weight of constantly trying.
Then out of the blue, she called me last month. It had been nearly a year since we last spoke so it came as a shock. When I answered, she said, “Hi honey, I need a favor. Can I stay at your place? Your cousin’s wedding is in your city.”I was shocked by the nerve she had. She couldn’t even check in on her own grandchildren, but she wanted to use my house as a Bed & Breakfast? That was enough to bring all the anger I carried toward her back.
Without a second thought, I said no. She went quiet for a moment and then snapped, saying, “After everything I’ve done for you, this is how you repay me?” That was where I drew the line. I told her that she had never done anything for me or my family.
I was the one who kept contact, and even then she couldn’t be bothered. We didn’t need her in our lives, and we didn’t owe her any favors. I hung up before she could respond.
